Why Korean Mothers Spend Entire Days Waiting in Their Cars
Why Korean Mothers Spend Entire Days Waiting in Their Cars
Recently, I watched a short video that surprised many people.
A well-known Korean actress was seen spending hours inside her car —
eating simple meals, checking her phone, and waiting.
Waiting for her daughter to finish class.
All day.
Many international viewers reacted with confusion.
“Why doesn’t she hire a driver?”
“Why wait that long?”
“Isn’t that extreme?”
But in Korea, the more surprising question is this:
Why is anyone surprised?
The Parking Lot Outside the Hagwon
In South Korea, especially in large cities, it is common to see rows of cars parked outside private academies — known as hagwons.
Inside those buildings, children study math, English, coding, music, debate.
Outside, parents wait.
Sometimes for one hour.
Sometimes for three.
Sometimes the entire evening.
The cars become temporary offices.
Lunchrooms.
Resting spaces.
Command centers.
It is not unusual to see mothers eating kimbap in the driver’s seat, laptop open, calendar full.
Education Is Not an Activity. It Is a Strategy.
To understand this, you have to understand Korean history.
After the Korean War, South Korea was one of the poorest countries in the world.
For the generation that rebuilt the country, education was the fastest — and sometimes only — path to stability.
A good school meant a good university.
A good university meant a stable job.
A stable job meant survival.
That belief did not disappear when the economy grew.
It evolved.
Today, South Korea is highly developed.
But competition is intense.
Housing prices are high.
Jobs are demanding.
Parents do not simply support education.
They manage it.
Schedules are coordinated.
Subjects are optimized.
Time is monitored.
In many families, education is not a child’s personal journey.
It is a family project.
Waiting Is Also Labor
From the outside, it may look passive — just sitting in a car.
But waiting is a form of work.
It is mental calculation.
“Is this academy the right one?”
“Should we add another subject?”
“Is my child falling behind?”
Korean mothers are not only supporting their children emotionally.
They are navigating a competitive system in real time.
Even those who could afford to delegate often choose not to.
Because presence feels like responsibility.
And responsibility feels like love.
Is It Pressure — or Devotion?
For some observers, this system looks overwhelming.
For many Korean parents, it feels normal.
There is pride in sacrifice.
There is meaning in effort.
And there is a quiet fear of regret:
“What if I didn’t do enough?”
So yes — you may see a mother spending her entire day in a parked car outside a classroom building.
She is not lost.
She is not idle.
She is participating in one of the most serious commitments in Korean society:
The belief that education can change destiny.
And in Korea, many still believe it does.
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Korean Education, Hagwon Culture, Korean Parenting, Asian Parenting, Education System, Korean Society, Social Pressure
